Sometimes Being a Mom is Hard.

So during my oldest son’s year in the 7th grade he was bullied several times. This happens apparently when you start your kid in Kindergarten at the age of 5 because he’s bored and other parents sons don’t start until the age of 6. Being a year younger than his peers he had not yet hit his growth spurt (thank goodness that appears to be kicking in now).

Usually I am of the belief that bullies are not getting the attention and or discipline they should be getting from home. When it’s my kid on the receiving end I don’t give a shit why they are doing it I just want them to stop. After an incident where my son was pinned against a wall (thank goodness for security cameras in school I guess) I showed him three ways to defend himself. With this knowledge I also advised him that he should NEVER be the aggressor nor should he defend himself physically if it’s a verbal altercation.

There was one incident that stood out more than others last year though. One that I never thought I would have to deal with, especially with all the violence in schools these days you’d think I would be prepared. I was not. A student my son knew well enough to have conversations with threatened him with a knife. Thankfully threats were as far as it went.

The school took quick action and police were involved but I don’t think any mother can really be prepared for this type of situation. Kids going through puberty are not that smart, they make bad choices because their frontal lobe is still developing and hormones… good grief the hormones. Months later I am getting letters and calls from law enforcement regarding the situation, the charges and the process.

My kids should be enjoying summer, playing in pools, hanging out with friends, goofing off and driving me crazy but not thinking about victim statements and court orders of no contact. So today, after another reminder of this event I find being a mom difficult, but I am sure the mom of the kid who made bad choices is also finding being a mom difficult and that is what I am trying to remember.

Organizing Your Medical Records

Second in being your own advocate series.

So, what do you do now that you have all your medical documentation, reports and CDs? Everyone will have a preference on what works for them and the way their brain works. For me, I found that a binder works best. My binder is set up with dividers and only has the current year and the year previous, all other years are kept in tonged portfolio type folders and separated by year (in some cases one year may take two folders), I find this is easiest because you can keep them in a fire safe, filing cabinet or book case.

Binder Organization:

  • The first thing in my binder is a copy of my insurance card, this is handy if you want to take your binder to an appointment with you.
  • Secondly, I have a printed copy of my spreadsheet with my doctors information first and then all my medications. Keeping a current list of medications is helpful when you see the doctor, if you are on a lot of different ones like me it’s hard to remember the names and dosages of everything.
  • Third, I have a print out of my google calendar that shows my appointments. This is good to have a snapshot of your month but also if you are scheduling appointments you have a copy of your calendar in front of you. Yes, you can use your phone but sometimes it’s nice to have a printed copy, I color coordinate mine so one color is my medical appointments, one color is for my kids and a different color for the family.
  • For me personally number 4 is lab work, I have printed copies of all my blood test results. I do extra on this because I like looking at my blood work and seeing if it’s changing so I have a spreadsheet that has all of my lab results for 10 + years, anything that flags high is red and low is green. This makes doctors appointments faster when they are discussing previous labs. When doctors use their portals they have to pull them up one at a time, this way it’s all right there and we can see a snapshot of what the last few months were.
  • Fifth is blank sheets (or you can probably find forms) to make notes at appointments. On these I write the date, who the appointment is with, questions I want to ask at the appointment and then notes I take away from it.
  • After that I have all my radiology reports and other tests that I have had done (EKG, hearing, eyes). These are separated by binder dividers and then the previous year information in the same order is after that.
  • The last thing in the binder is CD copies of all of my imaging. Not only fun, if you have a computer and want to see your body but helpful when seeing a new doctor or following up with an appointment where the doctor may not have the images yet.

Let me know if you have any questions and I will happily address them if I can.

Why You Should Keep Your Medical Records

If this is the first post of mine you are reading then, welcome, I have numerous medical issues including Multiple Sclerosis and Meniere’s Disease (neither currently have a cure).

This is my first post in a series for medical documentation, tracking and organizing.

I started having MRIs, EEGs, and other tests done in 1994; when I was diagnosed with MS in 2014 I had wished that my mom (or me) had thought to getting copies of the reports from then, it would have been an excellent baseline.

Why should you have copies of your medical information? If you have to move, or get a second opinion or even for insurance claims having copies of your labs, reports, tests are a whole lot faster than working with a doctor’s office trying to get the needed information to another person.

Thankfully, it is much easier now to get copies of everything than it was 5 years ago. Medical facilities and doctors are only required to keep records for 7 years once you no longer see them, so the sooner you get on it, the better.

Locally, prior to getting my MRIs at the university hospital I now see my doctors at, I got most of my scans at Health Images and Sally Jobe Invision. It may see intimidating at first to go through this process but once you get everything requested, staying on top of it is very easy. You fill out a form allowing release of information to yourself, make sure you get CD copies of your imaging too. They typically don’t charge you if it’s for your own personal use.

This is where the spreadsheet template on my MS Resources page will come in handy as well. I found that if I have more than one doctor in a certain specialty it’s best to sub-group them. At the bottom there is a space for doctors you haven’t seen in more than a year, which is good for people you don’t see regularly but may need to see in the future (for example, a speech pathologist or gastroenterology).

My next post will discuss organizing the medical records. Do you have any questions or concerns you’d like me to address during this series?