Outgoing Introvert

Outgoing introvert probably seems like an oxymoron but it’s not. I know this because I am one.

It probably started with anxiety as most of my skills growing up did. The silence made me uncomfortable, I couldn’t even do homework if it was quite. Through college I always had something on the TV as background noise while studying.

Silence in conversations or group settings unnerve me to an extreme level. I can sit with my husband and kids in silence but it took a lot of therapy to finally not be anxious sitting in a quiet room with family.

Most of my jobs in life have been in customer service, this is perfect for an outgoing introvert. I would get loud and smile and talk with everyone who passed by. Then I would go home and crash, speak to no one shut in a room reading or something else that didn’t require conversation.

A great article on the differences points out the below:

  • Introverts get exhausted by social interaction and need solitude to recharge.
  • Extroverts get anxious when left alone and get energy from social interaction.

This is how I know I am an introvert for sure. Before my MS started causing bigger issues for me when having conversations I often felt tired after talking with people all day. Just because I can do it, doesn’t mean I enjoy it or even that there aren’t consequences for those conversations.

Just like most things in health and mind, there are varying degrees of everything. You can be an extreme introvert with shyness and that general stereotype or you can be the extreme extrovert who needs to be talking with someone most of the day, then there’s everything in between.

The problem with being an outgoing introvert is that everyone assumes you’re extroverted and don’t understand when you need to break away from conversations or skip events. Now that I have two fairly significant other medical issues people just assume it’s one of those when I cancel or reschedule.

Where do you fall?

Exhausted but Unable to Sleep

I’ve had trouble sleeping for as long as I can remember. My mother tells me my whole life. I’m constantly tired because of my MS and when I get a chance I nap.

By the time I get into bed at night all I want to do is sleep. I have numerous medications for sleeping, pills to keep my nerves from being assholes, pills for back pain, pills for my spastic legs, other pills for things I can’t remember right now and cream for back pain.

You would think I’d have no problem falling asleep with all that assistance, and yet here I am, on my phone because while I’m exhausted and yawning I’m not “sleepy” yet. Usually I can listen to podcasts or play a matching game and that will help.

It can’t just be me, my husband falls asleep easily and my boys struggle some days (probably thanks to my genes).

Do you have issues sleeping or getting your kids to sleep? What works, I’m hoping for suggestions to try.

Sleepovers and Nightly Routines

I have learned the hard way that I need to start asking my youngest son’s friends parents about their nightly routines prior to sleepovers.

It is not something I was ever concerned about, they all change into pjs, brush teeth, use the bathroom, but then what? Do they listen to music at night, what time do they typically go to bed? Do they need warm milk or snuggles with their favorite stuffed animal?

My second grader likes to watch a show on his tablet with a lamp on before bed. He falls asleep this way, yes I know it’s not the healthiest habit but having a chronic illness that leaves you exhausted means bypassing fights you don’t want to have. If he doesn’t fall asleep within an hour I go into his room and turn on music.

Obviously most kids likely do not have a show to watch with their lamp on. They need a dark room, with or without a nightlight, etc. The weird thing is that my kid can sleep at other people’s homes whichever way they go to sleep!

As a mom, it’s not something I ever even thought to ask about, kids will sleep. and it takes some adjusting if you forget to ask but eventually they will get there.